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25 July 2014 @ 09:27 am
I don't follow many blogs, but there is this particular one that never ceases to fascinate me: Post a Secret. I'm sure you've heard of it, but just in case you haven't, click here (and here for their archive of older posts). Aside from the interesting postcards and artwork, I'm especially intrigued by the level of vulnerability people are willing to share, even if it's done anonymously. I've been following the blog for years, and the more I read the stronger the urge becomes to post a secret myself. Who knows, it might be liberating. Would/have you ever put up a secret on there?

One from their new batch:
"This photographer is traveling the globe to document transgender people living in hidden societies. From the nightclubs of Mongolia to the swamps of Venezuela – Àlvaro Laiz’s work transports you into various worlds and shares the stories of the people that inhabit them."

Fantastic imagery and insights. Check the full article here.

01 May 2014 @ 09:10 am
I always thought that, like being gay or lesbian, trans* folk intuitively knew what they were from an early age, which is why I really struggled with accepting the fact that I was transgender when a friend pointed it out to me a couple of years ago. When I finally did accept it (this year), I felt pretty dense. How could I not know something like that about myself? If my friend hadn't opened my eyes, I never would have realized it. Because to me, transgendered people looked and acted in a very specific way - a misconception shaped by limited media representation and prejudiced cultural views. Turns out that I'm not the only one to catch on late. Apparently, to many trans folk, knowing that they're in the wrong body and relating it to being trans isn't an instinctive leap of logic if they've never been educated about it.

The following is a video of Dade's experience of how he realized he was trans. Dade has undergone one of the most successful transitions I've seen on Youtube, and his videos really strike a chord.

24 April 2014 @ 08:34 am
Was reading this article, "Most Disney Movies Are Pro-Gay" when I came across this part:

Another obvious example: Mulan, where the protagonist disguises herself as a male soldier. When the soldiers later dress themselves as courtesans so they can sneak into the palace, the film completes its theme of gender as performance, with women pretending to be men and men pretending to be women. Mulan’s “I Want” song also plays like an anthem for kids born into the wrong gendered body—“When will my reflection show who I am inside?”—and intriguingly, the film insinuates that her male captain fell in love with her while she was masquerading as a man.

That intrigued me enough to Google the lyrics. Change the context and it would be the perfect transgender theme song.

Look at me,
I may never pass for a perfect bride, or a perfect daughter.
Can it be,
I'm not meant to play this part?
Now I see, that if I were truly to be myself,
I would break my family's heart.

Who is that girl I see, staring straight back at me?
Why is my reflection someone I don't know?
Who is that perfect bride?
It's not me, though I've tried.
When will my reflection show, who I am, inside?
How I pray, that a time will come,
I can free myself, from their expectations
On that day, I'll discover someway to be myself,
and to make my family proud.
They want a docile lamb,
No-one knows who I am.
Must there be a secret me,
I'm forced to hide?
Must I pretend that I am someone else for all time?
When will my reflection show, who I am inside?
When will my reflection show, who I am inside?

08 April 2014 @ 12:59 am
Hi everyone, so I'm new to this community, I found it by trying to find more genderqueer/genderfluid communities on the internet.

So I'm kind of new to the concept of gender fluidity. I've kind of always shifted between "I want to dress girly!" and "I will be the manliest fucking shit today" and only recently did I make the connection that this was connected to my gender identity. Some days I wake up and I am a boy and other days I wake up and I am a woman. Most of the time I identify as a woman, but a few times I identify as male. If I were male most of the time, I might consider transitioning, but I literally desire to be physically male so rarely that I just deal with it and am a male with boobs and a vagina while I identify as male.

I work in a department store running the lingerie department and so I am not open about my sexuality (pansexual) or gender identity at work, because I live in a conservative area and I'm afraid of customers and perhaps coworkers being like "You're gay! You can't work in a bra department that's gross!" *rolls eyes* Sorry ladies, but the only boobs I am interested in are my girlfriend's. But anyway, my work requires me to wear makeup dress nice and on days when I identify as female its fine, but on days when I am male its really uncomfortable.

The thing is, while I don't really "shift" into a male gender that often, (I'd say I identify as female 95% of the time, and I cannot really explain why but maybe once a month I wake up in the morning and boom! I'm male) I don't really have any outlet on the days that I'm male, especially if I have to work that day. Also because I am not "out" and living with people, I don't have any male clothes. I want to start dressing as a male on days that I am able and feel like it, but its difficult. Getting a hold of shoes, pants and shirts won't be a problem, and I have a binder bookmarked online, but the problem is my hair. I love my long, waist-length hair when I am a woman, but I hate it when I am male. I don't want to cut my hair, so if anyone has info on short wigs (and how to put them on over long hair) it would be greatly appreciated.

So, um, thanks for listening, I guess. I just wonder if its weird that my genderfluidity is so skewed towards female and rarely male. I can't really explain it its just--some rare days, I wake up in the morning and I'm a dude. 
05 April 2014 @ 10:42 pm
Must be nice to be able to pull off both genders. Check out the full list here.

@Mods: Not sure if the tag fits this post.
19 February 2014 @ 11:02 am
I have always identified as a female and never really questioned it until now. I've never really been interested in makeup or dresses. I always feel wrong when I wear them. I think they're super cute and continue to buy them but when I put them on it feels wrong. I'm better and making guy friends than girl friends. I know that I am interested in males but occasionally I get a weird feeling. Like some days I really wish I had a penis. And I wouldn't mind having sex with a female. I've never told anyone about this but it's happening more and more. Like I really wish that I could have an operation and get a penis but also keep my vagina because I want the option of both lol. I'm not interested in sports but I've always been interested in building things and fixing cars. I've always thought I was a tomboy but now I'm wondering if maybe I'm genderfluid. Some days I absolutely love my body and other days I wish it looked less 'girly' I suppose. What does all of this mean?
19 December 2013 @ 10:49 pm
Every now and then someone shares a video that sticks. This one is by no means a new discovery, but it makes me pause every time I listen to/watch it. What videos inspire you?

(@Mods: what tag should this post go under?)

17 December 2013 @ 04:38 pm
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10 December 2013 @ 10:02 pm
Have any of you gone from severe gender dysphoria during childhood where you were convinced that you should have been born the opposite sex, to identifying as bigender or gender fluid in adulthood?

I ask because I never realized that what I was going through as a kid was gender dysphoria (or that the condition/term even existed) up until a few months ago when a friend pointed it out. As the result of my ignorance and my parents' constant intervention, I gradually eased into behaving as a cis-female, albeit not an entirely conforming one. The biggest change is that my dream self went from being constantly male (early childhood to late teens) to sometimes female (early twenties) to always female (mid twenties).

Despite being more comfortable in my skin now, I sometimes experience twinges of regret/longing when passing the men's wear section in shops, wistfulness when noticing good looking guys, and downright envy when I read about FTMs who've transitioned beautifully. I don't think I'll ever seriously consider transitioning or 'passing', even though sometimes I wish I could switch on demand between bodies. That said, I've never separated between my female/male self. I just suppress overtly guy-ish behavior to avoid criticism, but I don't bother amplifying female behavior. (Does that make me bigender or gender fluid?)

Has it always been clear-cut for you or did you, too, transition from trans into something else?