Yesterday was the first gathering I've felt completely comfortable with my extended family since I was very small. The reason - they know I'm trans now and are okay with it.

A couple of days ago I overheard my mom on the phone talking with my aunt about me being transgender. I had suspected but not realized that they knew, but they do, and they're ok with it. It was a fantastic feeling. I didn't have to worry about acting too feminine or masculine, I could just be myself.

Just wanted to share my good news. :)

Some of us are as we need to be. Others? I was in my late teens before some self-acceptances. As it was so NOT normative there&then. Here&now? Shit. We have a metric fuckton of miles to go till there's no concern about how we present.

So? How we get there becomes of no small concern to us. Here's WHY we're all part of change. Every time we check ourselves out in the mirror and smile at what fluidity we've made our DAILY bits. We're one more day on the job of making us normative. Job begun well:}

Side note- it's amusing to see the looks or absence of looks, and.. those priceless knowing smiles about which side a shirt buttons on . I'd grabbed an overtly vanilla shirt a few days ago.. but it's become unremarkable to me which side buttons.. Sort of a giggly 'Heh.. even I've become no longer concerned about which side."

Hey all. Found this group after googling for 'genderfluid' with a site search of LJ. I identified as FtM two years ago. After a lot of consideration, interesting turns of events, and so on, I've come to understand that genderfluid is most likely the best 'label' for me.

I'm here because I just found out that my brother's gf is pregnant, so I'm going to have a niece or nephew in a matter of months. I'm curious as to what titles y'all use for aunt/uncle? A couple friends like "aununcle" (pronounced on-uncle or an-uncle), but as I know I'm not the first figured I'd ask here. Do you have a different title you use, or do you opt for aunt or uncle?

I happened upon this group when searching for gender fluid forums on Google and decided it was about time I created a new LiveJournal account and joined in.  I was looking for discussion forums for a specific reason that I'll get to in just a moment...

First off, I'm KittyVel, but you can call me Sara, Kitty, Vel, Kitten, etc.   I discovered the term "gender fluid" around a year ago and was so happy to find out that there was actually a term for what I had felt my whole life and that there were other people who felt the same way.  I'm 20 years old.  I have a wonderful boyfriend who lives with me and my family.  I have 21 pets, and am obviously a huge animal lover.  <3

My boyfriend doesn't know I'm gender fluid, and I'm afraid to tell him, which is why I was looking for discussion forums...I don't know how to bring it up to him, because there are a lot of days when my DDs just don't feel like they should be there and I want to bind my chest and dress in boy's clothes.  I have two friends that know, and one of them is gender fluid and the other androgynous.  Any help with figuring out how to "come out" (for lack of a better term) would be very much appreciated.

Wow it's nice to know there's actually a term that can help explain how I'm feeling inside after all these years :D

I found this page and was over the moon - getting to read the experiences of others that are in the same boat as I have been my whole life was just such an awesomely comforting thing; I'm still really new to all of this and still coming to terms with everything I have to do everyday to make myself feel comfortbale in my own skin, cause that's what true happiness is, loving yourself for who you are before anything else, and I have to say I'm having an absolute awesome time ever since I told a few of my close friends about the real me, feels like I've dropped about a tonne of cinder blocks and my soul feels so much lighter!!


This is the happiest I've felt in years - hoping that things can only get better from here!! <3 

Hello! My name is Chelsea, I am a nanny, and live with my boyfriend. ^^ I've always considered myself to be a bisexual, a tomboy. Sometimes I wear dresses. Other days I wear button ups and ties. My mother shamed me for wearing boy clothes, made me wear clothing I wasn't comfortable in. When I met my boyfriend, he let me borrow his shirts, ties, etc. And I felt so comfortable with myself. Lately, I do both. Today I'm wearing a dress, yesterday a baggy shirt and jeans. I have long hair, sometimes I want to chop it off; how I feel varies from day to day and it's stressful sometimes. I recently discovered the ideas of Genderqueer/Genderfluid...and it was such an amazing feeling to know there IS a name for what I am, that I'm not the only one. <3 Anyway. I hope to post more interesting things in the community in the future.



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So while my Daycare kiddos nap, I figured I'd do a quick introduction post. I've been here before under my old LJ, but that was something I left in the past (too much negative baggage and teenage style drama!)

My name is Rhett. No, that's not my full first name, but very few people actually call me by my full first name - my mom when she's annoyed, my grandparents, the parents of the kids I watch... but to most people I'm Rhett.

I'm 25 years old. But not really where I thought I'd be at 25. I live at home with my mom (and now my sister and my nephew - who's due to be born tomorrow morning! YIKES! That makes TWO of them!) and run a home daycare to help with bills.

I am asexual and biromantic. I hate labels. But unfortunately society keeps forcing more and more down our throats. FYI I don't hate sex... just ME and sex.

I am female in body, but very definitely genderqueer. When I was 17 and discovered there was such thing as Transgendered folks, I thought that YES! I AM TRANSGENDERED! And online (only) I started going by male pronouns, and a male name.

It was a HORRIBLE time in my life for me. It was a struggle against gender issues, and religious considerations (my entire family is VERY religious!) and the thought of losing all my friends and my family... it threw me back into the HUGE black pit of depression I had been trying to crawl out of.

But the time I was 21 or so, I had settled on being just... me.

I'm lucky that my mom is really understanding (my dad's a douchebag who lives in a different city with his perfect little family full of son's) and has never pushed anything feminine on me. Even when I was a kid she let me pick my clothes from the boys section, and struggled to find dresses without flowers on them for our religious meetings. Now as I get older she supports other aspects of my gender ambiguity... I have lady jeans because they were $15, not because I like them. I only wear men's underwear (WHY DID I NOT KNOW HOW FREAKING COMFORTABLE BOXER BRIEFS WERE BEFORE?!), and shirts. Most days the only women's clothes I wear is a bra... because I have to. My mom is not adverse to the idea of a breast reduction, and didn't even say anything negative when I told her I just would take them away... completely.

And I think, now at 25, I'm at least happy with WHO I am.

I am me. It doesn't matter if people think I'm male, or female. I don't get annoyed when people call me "ma'am" or use my full first name.

So, while the rest of the world wants to label me as a "Genderqueer asexual biromantic with a female body"... I'm just happy being... Rhett.

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THIS is a video that shows you how to hack your Facebook profile to actually display no gender.  All of your updates will read as [Name] changed their profile picture or whatever you did.

The video shows how to do it using Safari, but FireFox users can do it the same way if they have the Firebug add-on installed. :)

Cross-posted.

Just need to vent a bit, sorry.

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On the positive side I found a vicar I'm comfortable to talk to about gender issues, and I have been reassured about that concern I had about burning in hell. So hope springs eternal.

Are you a writer or an artist, or interested in planning for a community? Are you a feminist, gender variant person, a sexual person, gay/bisexua/pansexual, or an ally? Are you between the ages of thirteen and twenty one?

If you answered yes to those questions, you may be interested in a community I’m planning, called Teen Gender Activists. It will be entirely ran by teens, for teens, who are interested in gender and its role in society. I’m planning on having regular features; a few examples are ‘What It’s Like to Be Me,’ a feature on the role gender plays in your lives, and a weekly feature on comics that have to do with gender roles.

I’m currently looking for artists and writers interested in working on features, graphic artists willing to make banners and work on the community template, and people interested in moderating the community, as well as general planners. If you’re one of those people, contact me by PM, at rsvampiress[at]aim.com, or in a comment on this entry.

[cross-posted – my apologies if you see this several times.]